“I THINK THE SONG IS VERY, VERY SINISTER AND UGLY” — STING SAID THAT ABOUT THE SAME SONG COUPLES KEEP PLAYING AT THEIR WEDDINGS. In 1982, Sting’s marriage to actress Frances Tomelty was falling apart. What made it worse — his new relationship was with Trudie Styler, Frances’s best friend and next-door neighbor in London. To escape the backlash, he flew to Jamaica. One night he woke up around 2 AM, sat at a piano, and wrote the whole thing in about 30 minutes. But here’s what most people still don’t know — the lyrics were never about love. Sting called the song “very sinister and ugly.” He said it was about surveillance, control, and obsession with a lost lover. Not romance. Yet it became the biggest hit of 1983, sat at #1 on the Billboard Hot 100 for 8 weeks, and won Song of the Year at the 1984 Grammys. A couple once told him they played it at their wedding. He just said, “Well, good luck.” In 2019, BMI recognized it as the most-played song in radio history — over 15 million airplays, breaking a record that had stood for 22 years.
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